Life is not always a bed of roses, you may have heard this some or the other time in your life. The truth is life is never going to be a bed of roses. It is, for a greater part of your existence, very cruel. It is always ready to take more from you than what is presents you with. Now, this line of thought might seem a little dark and difficult to accept but the truth is that we need to accept life as it is if we want to change it fo good.
I talked about failures in my last post and how we should cope up with it. But, let’s face it, it’s easier said than done. Failures break us down to our core and you are not left with anything else much. Except you are! You still have a family who might be angry or disappointed for a short while but still love you. Now and always. You still have your friends who, most rightly, will keep embarrassing you everywhere you go with them but nonetheless, will always stand for you. You have your dreams and your life in its entirety.
So, what am I suggesting here. What is the way to deal with this monster which lives under our very own skin? It is very easy, at least it appears so to me. You, the one who thinks he or she is depressed, start talking. The people around you, are your people. Talk to them about how you feel! It won’t make them think that you are weak. In fact, talking about it will make you more strong because for one, you would have got all the tension and negativity out of your system and secondly, you’ll have more people to help you & support you while you fight it on your own.
Also, you are more prone to such troubles if you keep wondering about it. Get a hobby. Start something. Something you like. And then build on it with passion. The more you are in on it, the easier it would be to come out of that depression blanket.
And you, the one who doesn’t listens, I know you don’t have time and you are very busy but we are talking about your people. Your mother, father, son, daughter, brother, sister, boyfriends or girlfriends. So, inevitably, we are talking about you. There is no life to live without these people around so slow down and start listening. It might not seem a big deal but you just might save someone from oblivion. Pick up on the signs and sit down and listen. Tell them you are there. Comfort them. They need it at the moment. They are vulnerable and you have to keep them safe. After all, they are your people.
One more thing that I feel is that it is so easy to tell someone that you hate him/her but it is not so easy to say to your close ones that you love them. While they know it somewhere deep down, nothing makes your day get any better than when people around you tell you that you are indispensable, that they enjoy your company. So, get in the habit of saying that you love the people you love because while it might not appear to do much from your perspective, it might bring them back from the edges of depression.
Express yourself well and care for everyone and everything around you will be good. While, life isn’t going to be a bed of roses, we can trim the thorns for each other, making this life, a happy one!
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